Stories of a Hotelie: Family Businesses
The candidate is in the middle of a job interview. The selection process is almost complete, and he is about to have a conversation with the owner. Anxiety sets in, but a few breathing exercises quickly help keep his nerves under control. He takes a deep breath, knocks on the door (knock, knock—knocking on heaven’s door, just like in the Bob Dylan song), and steps inside.After a few minutes, the candidate realizes there is chemistry between them. A convivial conversation unfolds, and the resort owner—who happens to own more than a hundred companies—makes an unexpected remark.“Oh, don’t struggle anymore. You’ve already been selected. Do you know why?”The candidate scrambles to think of something smart to say about his résumé, but the owner beats him to it:“You are an expert in family business.”It was the first time the candidate had ever heard such a thing. Little did he know, it would become a recurring theme throughout his career.His first steps in resort management had been within his own family’s business. He remembers those early days vividly, as if they were yesterday—the long lunch hours where different generations gathered around the same table. At the center sat the family patriarch, his great-uncle, surrounded by relatives, all engaged in lively conversation. Some of the fondest memories came from those shared meals, including one particularly amusing incident. His great-uncle, afflicted by severe deafness, had failed to hear the repeated warnings about a fly in his soup. Oblivious, he had swallowed it with satisfaction, leaving the rest of the family in stunned silence before breaking into laughter.But beyond the anecdotes, one undeniable truth about family businesses remains: conflict is inevitable. In my experience working with several family-run companies—including my own—I have learned that disagreements are ever-present. The only way to navigate them successfully is through consensus.Unfortunately, I lacked the necessary experience to apply this formula to my own family business at the time. However, I was later able to help many others. In one particular case, I worked with a second-generation family-run resort where a dispute over expansion plans had driven siblings apart. By guiding them toward a structured negotiation process, helping them define roles, and reinforcing their shared vision, I saw firsthand how consensus can turn conflict into progress.Family businesses are complex, but they also hold incredible potential. They thrive on trust, history, and resilience. When managed with clear communication and mutual understanding, they can last for generations. And, as I’ve learned, sometimes, an outsider’s perspective—one shaped by personal experience—can make all the difference.




